There is a great myth in the world of dating, women were sold as a solid board by year.
The “great myth” can be summarized briefly:
“Men want a woman that is hard to get”
Let me start by saying that belief is wrong. And I’ll tell you why.
In fact, I keep my neck and say that this belief leads to further suffering and unhappy relationships than you ever imagined.
First, look at some classic examples of “hard-to-do behavior.” Here are some tips that proponents of ‘”hard-to-get” method usually recommend:
• “If you close you and your friends in a bar, not paying attention,”
• “Do not answer a text from him the next day”
• “be evasive when he tries to make plans with you”
• “Tell him you’re busy when you’re not”
Whether any of these are described in your current position?
I can understand it intuitively seems like a good idea – “.. To me, the price Yes, I would try to win more than me will be of great value to a person, has to work very hard.” But this simple piece of psychology that men lead women to run, hide their feelings and close for you to discover who they really are.
So you play the game. You can tell him you’re busy when you’re not. Or you stop phone calls. Or you can also cancel plans at the last minute without much apology.
Psychology simple right? – The harder it gets, the more he wants what he can not have.
Well this is what will happen first. But take a simple step that psychology is more distant, and what you find is this – when they finally give him what he wanted, it would not be so good! This is known as string theory, the cat.
If you hang a rope over a cat, you will continue to dig in a desperate desire to have an object. Of course, when you finally leave the string is not hard to understand cat does not want.
And it’s hard to do. It is inspired in the process, the game itself, not you. It draws on the idea of ??having you, but when it finally did, he began to wonder why he was still annoyed at first.
Some women realize and reach a conclusion even worse, thinking, “Oh, I’ll just keep playing the game for me to always keep.” And then he played the game, printed, and never really give very fully in all aspects of the fear of “losing power”.
It is not the way to lasting happiness in a relationship. In fact, there are only two kinds of men, you end up with when you play hard to get this game:
A disturbance of insecurity that spends all his time trying to figure out where it is.
2 A man game right back at you
In the meantime, good men for the most part in one of the following:
a) give up (after some confusion, and provided that you may be interested)
b) growing bored and move to a more pleasant
c) It is rude “and decides not worth their time
And this is exactly why you should stop playing hard to get.